Developing a strategy to overcome how to mentally deal with losses in trading is a key
to being a successful trader/investor. We learn more from losing than winning,
which is an unfortunate reality. In trading there is no such thing as certainty.
I remember a PhD wealth manager, a gold bug, coming to our local AAII (American Association of Individual Investors) meetings and proudly
claiming his wins in gold as he bought at $900 and it rose to $1200. Then he
came back next year and repeated his happy performance when gold was up to
$1600. He could do no wrong. He was a winner. He preached gold would hit $2200
because all the gold in the world would only fill a swimming pool. Next time he
came, he was quite subdued. Markets had risen but gold had dropped to $1400. He
had missed opportunities and he looked sick. He was buying gold miners then. Of
course with gold much lower, I can imagine him now fighting to just hold on to
his job. I expect we will not see him in a while at our meetings, unless he can
process his losses. How can he do that?
Losses in the stock market make us feel like a loser. Missed
opportunities also are treated as “losses” by traders.. I had a huge missed
opportunity “loss” this year, and it still hurts. I listened to LW’s market
forecast and ignored my own charts and systems. LW would have been perfect if I had just
turned his forecast upside down. Oh I get so mad with myself when I look at my
trading systems signaling Up and I plan on Down, because LW said so. It was a
huge missed opportunity that I treated as a ‘loss”. By focusing on what I learned from it, I was slowly able to overcome the
feeling of being a loser and gain my confidence back. I have promised
myself that I will no longer listen to Gurus who forecast long term direction. There are plenty of them around. I will only listen to the tunes
my charts play and follow them.
My charts cannot predict how long any direction will last. For
example a down signal can be short lived and turn right back into an up signal.
Had I just stayed in it and ignored my down signal, I would do better. But then
if I am longer following all my signals, what would dictate my buying and
selling rule? I accept these small “losses” as part of the reality that the
markets are not predicable. I don’t believe anyone who tries to tell you they
can predict long term market direction as they are simply deranged. What I do
know is a down signal is a sign of weakness, and I prefer to exit and not
challenge that weakness, as the fall could be very substantial.